Crazyavonlady Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 As a parent, nothing pisses me off more than when my kids lie to me, except when they lie and know that I already know the truth. As an adult child, nothing upsets my parents more than being lied to. I moved out when I was 17, and I still had to go to my mother for many things for school, so lying about my activities was never an option. When I turned 18, though, it never crossed my mind to lie to my parents. They both know everything about me, and the relationship I have with each of them is very close and I can tell them ANYTHING.As a wife, it pisses me off when my husband tells even little white lies to his parents. It makes me think that it would be easy for him to lie to me if it's so easy for him to lie to his parents. Lying to your parents, essentially, WILL affect future relationships. Not necessarily about this, but in general. I know it may be hard, but put yourself in their shoes. And keep open the conversation with them, trust me it will help you long term. When you're in your mid-20s and need someone to talk to, your parents won't be wondering if you're lying to them. Honesty is ALWAYS best, even when it may hurt someone's feelings, because then you become the person everyone can count on to ALWAYS tell the truth. Please don't try to fool the nic test, or lie to your parents. You will regret it. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, maybe not in a month or year, but one day you WILL. Joshuab3687 1
fishguy1123 Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 I think he's left the building..... Hopefully he chose the right path though. If life was easy everyone would get it right the first time! Joshuab3687 1
Joshuab3687 Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 I agree with ya Fish! 18 y/o looking for down low advice, gets unanimous condemnation... I'm pretty sure he doesn't come back
Compenstine Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Might be he lost his Internet. LOL Works well to motivate my 18 and 15 year old when they feel like being lazy.
fishguy1123 Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 You change the wifi code often? lol Daaaaddd....... WTF?
Compenstine Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Nope MAC Address filtering. I have the MAC address written down. LOL Yeah they know when it coming, I give plenty of warning. LOL Get it done or you will have no internet... But but but.... No Buts get it done now please. LOL
fishguy1123 Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Gotta love the Please at the end.... lol Do it! Ok, I may be a hard ***....
Compenstine Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 LOL I had the 18 year old one day yell at me.. "Why do you always do that?" I just said, "Because it works." She came back at me "Well not this time." and stormed off. I just smiled and shut it off. Took 2 days but it got done. LMAO
fishguy1123 Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Hold please... gotta pee.... no testing involved!!!! lol
Mtdobies Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Well you did say please and gave her the choice... my father used to say it was his house he paid the bills so he made the rules... joejoevapekins 1
iheartvape Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I give my kids a choice. The choice is... do it... or don't, and I take all your s@#t away. Tam and Joshuab3687 2
Joshuab3687 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 My girls get a choice... Do it or... Do it! Lol Mtdobies 1
Tam Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I give my kids a choice. The choice is... do it... or don't, and I take all your s@#t away. My friend used to do a variation of that. She's take their stuff away and put it in a locked trunk. Then, come Christmas time she'd wrap it up and they got to open it as a gift -- if they were good -- and repeated as necessary the next time they didn't do what they were supposed to. It was win-win for her. One, there was the teaching her kids that their actions had consequences and two, it saved a ton of money at Christmas. Lol! Compenstine and Joshuab3687 2
Mtdobies Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Someone brought up the do ity way or move out and do it your way, I heard that too, I was a stubborn young human I have been on my own since I was 15, so be careful what options you give, they could take you up on it too.. Tam 1
Joshuab3687 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Thats not on the list of choices for my girls. Lol! But I rarely have to get onto them about anything. They have a healthy dose of respect (or fear) for their mom, me, and their stepmom. They don't like it when I have to be Sergeant A-hole.
Mtdobies Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Smart man you are, fair, frequent and consistent works well. A touch of fear never hurts either lol
Compenstine Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I found my step kids hate discipline with a smile and please. LOL There is nothing worse to a Teenage girl than taking her Internet away. Oh and yes I did give her the If you don't like the rules there is the option of moving out speech. She tried it for the summer and was slapped with reality and bills. I got the you can't do this that and the other I'm 18 speech and just smiled at her. I think I saw flames come out her ears when I said "This is true and I can always start making you pay your share of what you use around here too now that your 18." Tam and iheartvape 2
Mtdobies Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Eww, got a lesson did she?? Isn't that a sweet victory, good for you! Life lessons are hard but your teaching her the right way. Nice she can fall back home too.
Mtdobies Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Its really hard to argue and fight w someone that's smiling at you asking please... gotta say I hate that word when I'm ticked off, It just melts me..
Compenstine Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Yes and no, I would have loved to she her make it, but the cards were stacked against it and I knew it. But you can't tell that to a teenager and have them believe you till they find out for them self. She is a good kid for the most part and I lover her to death. I'm not step Dad to her I'm "Dad" and that is her choice. Tam 1
Tam Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Taught my friend's son how to drive. She bought him my old Mazda 626 5-speed but then had to ground him when he took the car out when he wasn't supposed to. They lived at the top of a hill so he'd go out, put it in neutral 'til he got to the bottom of the hill then popped the clutch to start. She wouldn't hear the engine because he was all the way down the hill when he did it. She did notice that he wasn't at home and asked me for some help. I took out the distributor but put the cap back into place. He thought he was being pretty clever with his trick until the car didn't start, he couldn't figure out why, and the boys couldn't push the car back up the hill back to where it had been parked. His mom and I pretended we didn't know what was going on. It was the funniest thing! He also learned not to try to side step any punishment from that. Compenstine 1
Mtdobies Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 She's just stuck between an adult and a kid feeling her oats, sounds like she got love and respect, that will keep on track.
Mtdobies Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Oops, do they think they're being original??? I guess I did when I was that age too. How funny..
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